10 Things We Fight About by Richard & Maricar Reyes - Poon

Marriage is risky. When you decide to marry someone, that person becomes a significant part of your life which also affects your choices and decisions in life. The impact that person has to you is so great that it can either make or break you…or change you. This alone could make anybody think twice before getting into marriage. On the contrary, it’s also sad to get old alone. That is why no matter how risky it can get, we long to be in union with somebody someday… and just pray that the person whom we decided to end up with is worth that risk.

If you are somebody who just got married or who is entering marriage, I suggest that you read “10 Things We Fight About” authored by celebrity couple Richard and Maricar Reyes-Poon because it gives a glimpse on the dynamics of a married couple, especially that of two people who have extremely different personalities and family backgrounds. The character/attitude that we have will influence how we deal with stress and arguments. It can either start or fuel a fight.

While it is normal for a couple to fight, how couples manage/deal with it varies. The reason why I love reading the book of Richard and Maricar is that it gives practical and straight-to-the point reminders such as the importance of telling the truth, being open, and avoiding fake ‘sorrys”. It’s true that while sometimes the truth hurts, it is necessary to establish the trust to make the relationship lasts.

On the other hand, most of the time, it’s not the truth that hurts. Most of the time, conflicts arise or gets worse not because of the problem/issue but because on how we deliver the message. This is also the same in marriage. Accordingly, the more we raise our voices to our partners, the greater the fight gets. To quote from the book, “Present your side respectfully. No shouting/cursing/disrespectful tone.”

Lastly, the most unique thing I learned from the book is the use of the T-sign. It is a hand gesture to control temper and prevents shouting during a fight. This is something to be learned by any couple. If you would like to know more about it, then it’s time for you to read the book!

P.S.

The book is easy and very light to read. There are also reflection questions at the end of each part.

Get an autographed copy (with personalized message from the couple) for P225.00 only through their Relationship Matters website. They ship nationwide.